Own your clumsy
I get on my ever loving last nerves, on most days. I am clumsy (other than holding a child, I am sure to drop almost anything I pick up). I for sure struggle with attention issues, I regularly vacillate between wanting to run the world and binge watching Netflix all day; yet according to my Pinterest boards, I clearly have a desire to be doing much more. I own that I am clumsy, that I may or may not break your dishes and that on any given day, I am in a random room in my house trying to figure out why I went in there in the first place. This could potentially get on someone’s last nerve… I own it, it is who I know myself to be.
One of the most complex issues that I see in my clinical practice is the concept of learning to like yourself and even more challenging, understanding that others will not always like you. Go ahead, have a huge GASP or the inevitable response of “but it really bothers me when people don’t like me”.
Here is the reality of our lives: WE GET ON OUR OWN NERVES. Unless you have a diagnosis of narcissism, you will at several points in a day, get on your own nerves. Therefor, is it entirely possible that we get on other peoples nerves. Those that love us, or like us, put up with our quirks as we put up with theirs. However, there will be some, who just don’t get us, don’t invest in getting to know us, or we literally just are not their type of people. That’s OK and here is why it is OK. If you really gave some thought to your true feelings about the people that do not like you, you would find (wait for it) YOU REALLY DO NOT LIKE THEM EITHER! It’s just the concept that they had the nerve to realize it first and act accordingly. You just want them to like you, for the whole concept of being liked, but really you wouldn’t pick them to be your close friends. Truth is most people who don’t like us, we don’t like them…the feelings are usually mutual if we really allow ourselves to think it through.
We don’t have to be liked by everyone or many. We only need to find the people that get us, accept us and make us feel welcomed and loved. If we get one or a couple or few of those people, we are truly lucky.
Love this !!