Do you suffer from analyzing your thoughts and emotions? Constantly ask yourself, “Why do I feel this way”, “Why do I act this way or why do I think this way”? What happens when you ask yourself these big “why” questions is that you begin an anxious train of thought. These questions make you examine and analyze every feeling and emotion and often ends with a feeling of “I don’t know”. There becomes a sense of dread not knowing the answers to the vast why questions.
In contrast what if instead of asking yourself why, you ask yourself WHAT? Ask yourself what just happened that made me feel this way. What just happened to make me act this way? What just happened to make me think this way? In most cases, there is a what that connects you to how you are feeling. It is not always something that just occurred, sometimes it’s a thought or a memory that popped into your mind that provides the answer to the question. Asking what versus why allows for more progression in your thoughts and less existential examination. Asking what versus why helps to put something concrete to associate with your emotions versus looking for an exaggerated cosmic answer to a why and allows for more power in developing an action plan.
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